Peace On Earth, Goodwil To Your Sister
Maddie and Cora are in quite the feisty stage right now, and I’m dangerously close to opening up a can of whoop-ass on both of them sometimes.
I do not, do NOT understand why they are so mean to each other, yet so different with their friends. What is this natural antagonism, this inbred animosity?
I fret that I have instilled some sort of insecurity in each girl: that each is mean to her sister out of some fear of being less-well-loved by Mommy. I worry that I have made each girl feel not as good as her sister. Or even that I walk around trashing my own family members, setting a bad example.
I do not, do NOT understand why they are so mean to each other, yet so different with their friends. What is this natural antagonism, this inbred animosity?
I fret that I have instilled some sort of insecurity in each girl: that each is mean to her sister out of some fear of being less-well-loved by Mommy. I worry that I have made each girl feel not as good as her sister. Or even that I walk around trashing my own family members, setting a bad example.
Then I just watch them and realize nope, this is just contempt bred by familiarity at its absolute finest.
I could list mean words after crabby face after hurtful action on both sides of the fence, but really, what’s the point? I try not to punish the offence – though I do give them consequences – but instead address the heart behind the behavior.
But I gotta be honest here, it gets kind of tiring. Does EVERY freaking minute have to be a Teachable Moment?
A little peace on Earth here, please. Or at least take it down to Defcon 3.
But I gotta be honest here, it gets kind of tiring. Does EVERY freaking minute have to be a Teachable Moment?
A little peace on Earth here, please. Or at least take it down to Defcon 3.
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